Today, I’m talking about first sexual activity. “First sexual experience” means to insert male genitalia into female genitalia but this is problem for gay or lesbian people because their definitions are different from heterosexual. At first, I think it’s a not ritual but ritualization. As you know, this event is depends on
person and it doesn’t has specific order or time. Therefore this time I’ll mention about basic idea in the U.S. There is a symbol for first sexual activity it’s a flower, because a flower is symbol for virginity and purity and flower reminds us delicate things. In English, the word "deflower" means to deprive a woman of her virginity and to strip a plant of flowers. This mean virginity is consider about related to flower. Also, flower has bud period, flowering period, and full bloom period. It looks similar with sexual maturity.
There are some myths about first sexual activity such as lost virginity, how to sexual activity, and medical effects of sex. Nowadays these information are possible to find on the web site, magazine, TV, and from experienced person or friends. Although, these are not medical information and particularly, internet has pornography which has exaggerated sex. It’s a dysfunctional and filled with wrong information but on the other hand, internet has useful website such as “Planned Parenthood”. This is a website to give people to basic information about sex in mentally and physically. People can find information or knowledge what they need to having sex safely.
In the case of the first sexual activity, define separation stage is most difficult because it’s a very personal. Some people say that separation stage is a dating period, but the other say it is preparing for sex. I define transition stage is during having first sexual activity because people confusing what they are doing. After sexual activity is reaggregation stage because someone will feel they changed identity like more mature. However, they are changed not physically but emotionally. In addition, the point first sexual activity is it doesn’t change people’s society status if they don’t tell anyone. As a result Bailey and I talked, people feel communitas between person who had sex and they can feel connect with that person more than before. People also feel liminality through the first sexual activity but through every stage people can feel liminality. This is because feeling confused about sex will depend on the person, before activity, during activity, and after activity or whenever happen.
In conclusion, this is a ritualization because it hasn’t specific time and order, and strict rules. Even this has some myth and symbol, sexual activity is very flexible and function or purpose depends on so this is personal activity. As you know, there are a lot of type of sex activity and function goes, but no matter heterosexual or homosexual, and no matter when or how, everyone through the “First sexual activity” and it’s a memory of growing as adult. If you want to have sex with someone, you need responsibility for relationship between you and the other and yourself. Therefore, this is a ritualization in America.
References:
Bailey Moody
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/info-for-teens/sex-masturbation-33809.htm
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