Returning “on” is a rite of passage that makes people feel as an adult. America doesn’t have a word equivalent to on, but there are forms of on. On means a favor that you return to do something for your parents for showing a deepest gratitude of taking care when you were a child. In japan, most adults return on for their parents in various ways.
As I wrote, there are no words that equivalent to on, but American people do something for their parents as well. When parents get old, and they can’t move their bodies or eat by themselves, people put them into care homes or assisted living homes, or take them into their homes and live together. It is a good way to take parents into their homes, and live together because parents can be with their children or grandchildren, and spend a lot of time together. Also, it’s a good way to put them into care homes because there are many care workers, and they can help their lodging, meal services and assistance with daily living activities. People think care homes are more safe and secure than living home with them.
Returning on includes all three stages. I think the separation stage is when the children thinks to want to pay back on for the parents, and looks for ways that which is the best for their parents to spend the rest of their life. Transitions stage is the first couple of weeks for parents and children. Both of them have to adapt to new circumstances. The reintegration stage is to get used to it, and to understand each other. In this stage, people around them also know their condition. Also, people can change their status into a taking care person who has to have responsibilities for others.
Here is a myth. It is a psychological story. People start their life as a child at the beginning, and they can become adults through many experiences, then people become a child again. As people get old, they lose their motor skills such as walking, eating, seeing so forth like a baby. In addition, the symbol of returning on could be a cross. It usually represents medical cares, but it also means safe and security for those who have parents who are physically handicapped. Those people might feel relax when they see.
Retuning on is ritualization. People don’t have to do that, and some of features of rituals don’t match returning on though some special settings, languages in care homes, myth, and symbol. Returning on is not part of their life, and there are no strict rules of returning on in these ways for parents because they have many choices
References
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Wikipedia. (2013, 10 13). Nursing home. Retrieved 10 13, 2013, from wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nursing_home
Adrienne Higashida
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